<p>Downvotes are neither bad nor a personal attack. <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/a/9961/154425">The top answer</a> to <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/q/9953/154425"><em>Could we please be a bit nicer to the n00bs?</em></a> put it best:</p> <blockquote> <ul> <li>The up/down vote system is not just about rep, it <em>is</em> the quality control mechanism for Stack Overflow.</li> </ul> <p>... the up/down vote system is the core of how we get the "good stuff" up and the "bad stuff" down. It is not designed to be a personal attack against the users in question.</p> </blockquote> <p>Users must have <a href="http://electronics.stackexchange.com/privileges/vote-down">125 rep to downvote</a>, and the reputation privilege is described to be cast on questions and answers that "are least useful... egregiously sloppy, no-effort-expended post, or an answer that is clearly and perhaps dangerously incorrect," but, really, they're used for whatever we want. Other motivators are listed in <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/q/2451/154425"><em>Why do you cast downvotes on answers?</em></a></p> <p>Whatever the reason, don't take it personally. Similar to your behaviour in a discussion, it makes no sense to get upset when someone disagrees with, finds a flaw in, or offers an alternative to your argument.<b>*</b> This is something we all learn growing up socially. Those that don't abide are communally pegged as immature idiots, even if they were right.</p> <p><img src="https://i.sstatic.net/BVgN3.png" alt="xkcd: Duty Calls (http://xkcd.com/386/)"></p> <p>Voting is anonymous, meant to encourage more votes, especially downvotes with it's emotional blast radius. <a href="http://meta.stackoverflow.com/users/811/shog9">Shog9♦</a>, in <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/a/37123/154425">an answer to <em>Feature request: @Downvoter sends a notification to all downvoters for your post</em></a>, defends downvote anonymity, why we should STFU about votes/rep, and how to better ask for suggestions:</p> <blockquote> <p>I've thought more about this, and frankly... I don't like the idea of leaving a comment for down-voters <em>at all</em>, with or without notification. Down-voting isn't supposed to open a dialog - new users are <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/questions/135/encouraging-people-to-explain-down-votes">encouraged to comment when down-voting</a>, but it's not mandatory - and if they don't feel the need, that's <em>just fine</em>. </p> <p>Furthermore, I've seen too many instances where a "Why the downvote?" comment poisons further discussion, turning comments into a debate over whether the vote was merited - this is noise, as comments are supposed to be relevant to the content of the post itself. In most cases - and especially when comments have already been posted prior to the request - <a href="http://meta.stackexchange.com/questions/74559/is-it-now-discouraged-to-ask-for-reasons-for-downvotes-as-a-comment">I flag or delete these downvoter-addressed comments</a>.</p> <p>It's easy to feel frustrated, when you put substantial effort into a post only to see it down-voted without explanation. But this is an attitude that must be <em>discouraged</em> rather than justified. Remember: voting is primarily a means of communicating with <em>other readers</em> and with the system itself; comments should be reserved for providing auxiliary information, suggestions, and constructive criticism to the author. They're two separate mediums, and need to stay that way.</p> <p>Now, if you notice your post being down-voted and honestly want advice on improving it - regardless of whether or not that advice comes from the same users who down-voted it - by all means, ask for suggestions! Just stay focused on the <em>content</em>, not the <em>voting</em> or other users:</p> <h3>Good</h3> <blockquote> <p>Can anyone suggest improvements or corrections to this?</p> </blockquote> <h2>Bad</h2> <blockquote> <p>@Downvoter, please leave a comment. Rawr! </p> <p>Stupid anonymous down-voting cowards!</p> <p>Why the downvotes???</p> </blockquote> </blockquote> <p><strong>TL;DR</strong> <BR>Downvoting is required to bury bad questions and answers and reveal good ones, but receiving a downvote doesn't necessarily mean anything. Other people vote for different reasons, and a few votes here and there don't matter, so don't sweat it.</p> <p><br><b>*</b><sup><em>It makes sense when this discussion has real consequences, like getting or not getting the new Transformers toy with your Happy Meal, but that's besides the point.)</em></sup></p>